I told myself I needed to write this post. I thought it was the necessary follow up to my first post to explain myself. Been trying to find the write wording and such for a couple weeks now and honestly I’m tired.
I thought I needed to explain myself. Thought maybe I needed to explain my quirks, flaws, and why my blog probably will not look like others. I thought I needed to apologize for my imperfections and way of writing. I write how I talk. Period. No more apologies for who I am. Wow that was easy!
As If I haven’t already wasted enough time over many years procrastinating and allowing fear to keep me from moving forward into my goals and visions. I needed to stop comparing what I wanted to do with what others were doing and just do my thing already! I had to tell myself “eyes on your own paper Lulu” and just get on with it.
I’ve had to learn the hard way how dangerous the spirit of comparison can be. Sometimes when we have a desire or goal that is similar to something others have, we start to compare before we even begin our own thing. We look at what other’s are doing and think it’s better than what we could ever do and tell ourselves “why bother”. Tell ourselves we could never be as good as ‘fill in the blank’. This is pretty crazy when you think about it. It’s like comparing someone else’s chapter 12 to our chapter 1. Comparison can be such a thief and distraction. What we need to do is just dive in.
I’ve also found that I’ve wasted a lot of time thinking or processing why I’ve wasted so much time. I’ve used procrastination as an unhealthy tool to stop myself from pressing through and chasing my goals. What a vicious cycle. I allowed it to become a pretty handy escape, “well I’ve wasted time; I’m mad about the fact that I’ve wasted time, so I’ll just waste more time trying to figure out why I waste time”.
LOL did you follow that? Anybody else out there experienced the spin cycle of procrastination?? What a mess, all rooted in fear.
I realized that we have to start somewhere. I remember one of the last ‘how-to’ article I read, the writer gave what I believe was some of the best advice ever. As simple as it was it was a light bulb moment for me. She said the best way to learn is to just do it. Just start writing. Just start recording. Just start the business. JUST DIVE IN ALREADY!! No more waiting until everything is lined up perfectly because it will never be perfect. No more waiting until you are more ready, because you’ll never be ready enough. Trust me, I’ve been ‘getting ready’ for longer than I care to admit.
I needed to really grasp on to faith and trust I was enough and had the tools already to at least get started. And further to that, believe that once I got going, and kept on trusting, everything I needed would be provided, right on time. Sure there are many other blogs out there, but their story and method is uniquely theirs, and mine is mine. Only you can do it how you will do it. There’s only one you!
I know I know; it sounds so much easier to say ‘just do it’ than to actually take the risk. People who are already living their dreams or following their goals make it sound so easy. However, I’m pretty sure everyone has experienced the nervous feelings of new beginnings. Trust me when I tell you I’m still quite shaky and unsure. Still not sure of what I’m doing. Still not sure of what the complete vision looks like. What I do know is I’m giving the hold fear and procrastination has had over me an eviction notice! It’s seriously felt like bondage at times. But you know what, I’m just going to do it anyway. Do it scared! The scared won’t always be there.
Who else is ready to give out some pink slips to fear and procrastination?? Let’s do this!
And by the way, don’t beat yourself up for feeling scared, it’s totally natural with ‘new’ things. It’s just not okay to stay stuck there. For me, the idea of sharing my opinions and intimate thoughts with people freaked me right out, and still does. I feared rejection, judgement, exposure, among other feelings. However I decided to change my focus and begin to focus on why I wanted to start this journey. I wanted to reach, help, and motivate people, so I couldn’t continue to stay stuck behind fear. People are depending on your ‘yes’, depending on your willingness to be open and vulnerable and share whatever your gift and vision is with them.
And let’s not be upset that everything on the inside is not magically turned around by tomorrow morning, like you’ll wake up suddenly feeling like Superman or Superwoman, no fear, and a huge ‘S’ on your chest. It’s just not going to happen that way. It didn’t take an overnight process to get where we are with hesitation, so it’s going to take some time and patience to build confidence. It is a process, so let’s start with one step at a time. Let’s not focus on the full staircase, just the first step. And hey, let’s agree to not give up this time!
In the Bible, Deuteronomy 31:6 says, “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; He will never leave you or forsake you.” Something to keep in mind, maybe post that up near your desk, in your car, on your washroom mirror, maybe even set a daily reminder in your phone. Be strong and courageous! Go BOLD or go home! Let’s put the faith into action and dive in. Isn’t faith a verb after all?
Listen, it’s not going to be perfect. And honestly I hope it never is! Let’s give ourselves permission to be authentically ourselves. Permission to make mistakes, learn from them and keep pressing forward. Perfectly imperfect! Whatever it is we want to dive into creatively, business-wise, personal goals, let’s just be ourselves and be free! I already mentioned I write how I talk. Sometimes it’s poetic, sometimes random, and sometimes like a lecture. Sometimes I overthink, other times I really don’t care, like ‘meh’ (shrugs shoulders). But like I said, I’m finished apologizing. This is Lulu’s corner, unique, tragic, beautiful, messy, but it’s me! Now own your’s! Love it because it’s your thing!
So my friends, what are you going to do? What dreams and goals have you been sitting on the sidelines procrastinating about? What’s been holding you back? What tools have you used for motivation that you’d like to share that may help others get going? What has inspired you?
#YesYouAbsolutelyPositivelyCan!
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